Jan 28 2009
Calling all salespeople, and all non-salespeople!
THICKEN YOUR SKIN!
Everybody sells or has to sell something
all or some of the time.
Whew, now that’s a brainful of thoughts!
What I’m saying here (and run the risk of offending some by offering an “in other words” interpretation) is that anybody who sells anything, which means YOU (unless you’re a hermit or a castaway with a Wilson soccerball!), odds are great that you need to run an internal (inside your head) crusade to wipe out self-doubt!
We can discuss what makes the odds “great” some other time; just trust me for now as I share with you “like it is” . . . IF YOU CAN’T shake off (like your dog after a swim) the worryworts about what your concerns are of the impressions and opinions others have of you —by worrying about what you think they think– you are dooming yourself to failure.
At a time when more people are looking for fewer available jobs and the challenge to compete harder is tougher than ever, you cannot afford to short-change yourself or second-guess your actions or underestimate your abilities.
You are what you are and worrying about what you are not will not make one iota of difference.
If others like, appreciate and respond to you and what you have to offer (regardless of whether it’s product or services for sale or your job qualifications), that’s great! If they don’t embrace your ideas or what you have to sell, it’s their loss. Period.
Don’t busy your mind with overkill analysis. Move on to the next opportunity. There is always a next opportunity that comes from what you make happen, and you can only make things happen when you’re free from dwelling on what didn’t happen!
You think maybe this sounds good but isn’t practical? Wrong. It sounds good because it IS good. Making things happen and dropping the things that don’t along the way, are both a matter of choice.
Simply recognizing that your behavior is your choice will often turn the tide by itself, and other times will prompt you to free your mind up sooner rather than later. It feels pretty stupid to be wallowing in disappointment and feelings of failure when you are thinking that you are CHOOSING to wallow and feel sorry for yourself.
Okay, and what will make all of this thinking work quicker and more effectively? Getting in touch with the “here and now” that’s in your face (and that’s passing you by, NEVER to be retrieved if you’re busy wallowing), and the best way to do that is to TAKE A FEW DEEP BREATHS.
Circulating more oxygen to your brain makes you more alert and tuned in (kind of the opposite of wallowing). Deep breathing also circulates more blood flow to your muscles, making your body more relaxed, less tense, more prepared to be going forward.
You’ll find four (just 4) VERY simple, detailed steps for making the most of deep breathing elsewhere on this site. Try the “Magazine Articles” tab above, and click on the second article link (“Are You Breathing?”) in the lefthand column.
Oh, and as you thicken your skin, remember to believe in yourself, will you? You are unique. There is no one else on Earth exactly like you! halalpiar
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